Has Anything Positive Happened to You Since Being Diagnosed with MS?

Every year, I attend a multiple sclerosis two-day retreat in my home state. The experience is designed for people who have been diagnosed with MS, their care partners, and loved ones. So, every attendee has some genuine interest in the event’s outlined agenda.

The weekend getaway is located in a remote, semi-isolated area. It took us about 3 hours to get there. Yet, it is still very popular and heavily attended by people from all around the state.

An accommodating event

I enjoy going to this event because the schedule is casual and all sessions are optional. So there is no pressure to attend every activity, which lessens the possibility of fatigue.

The weekend began with breakfast. Then, everyone headed to their pre-chosen seminars. Several leisure classes and thought-provoking discussion groups were available. Some included arts & crafts tutorials, round tables on various subjects, and painting lessons.

A session on positivity

This year I chose a session on positivity. I have been struggling with doubt lately and figured I needed some affirmation.

The seminar was held in a private classroom. Ten people signed up for the forum. The presenter, Joan, had all participants assemble in a circle. The discussion began with introductions. After each person said hello, Joan got right down to business. She asked us to name one positive thing that has happened since we were diagnosed with MS.

My first thought was nothing

My first thought was nothing. Nothing positive has happened. I racked my brain trying to come up with a reply. To my surprise, almost everyone else answered with ease. They were giving some profound answers.

When it was my turn, I had no idea what I was going to say out loud. I asked her to skip me. I listened to a few more incredible answers before the spotlight was back on me. But I still had no counter. So I asked if I could respond tomorrow and she agreed.

The next day, when I saw Joan, she asked me again to name one positive thing that has happened since I had been diagnosed with MS.

This time, after having a night to reflect on it, I had an answer.

The one constant in my unpredictable life

I told her, “When I was diagnosed in 2000. My boyfriend, Tommy, was right there by my side. As a matter of fact, 17 years later he is still by my side. Only now he’s my husband. So the positive thing that has happened to me since I’ve been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis is my husband Tommy. He is the one constant in my unpredictable life. He’s my sure thing since MS.”

When I got home, I kept thinking about her question. Then I started asking my friends, who have MS, the same question. Some of the answers I got were intriguing.

One friend said her new more ADA accommodating job. Another friend said he trained his self to let things go and not allow stress to control his life. And to my surprise, one person said after being diagnosed, she became a vegetarian.

So now, I want you to name one positive thing that has happened to you since you were diagnosed with multiple sclerosis?

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  • 3 months ago

    It gave me even more appreciation for the “little things” that happen on a daily.
    I made it a habit to come up with 10 things every night that I am appreciative of. Some of them make me bust out laughing and those are almost always the ones I come up with on a slow night.

  • Shasha
    12 months ago

    Positive things happened due to MS? Changed my diet/took supplement/got into natural care for my health/detoxed/figured out my family tree dynamics and that they were also Celiac with other health issues/figured out who I am/figured out what I believe in and had more time to research ways to heal and relationship issues etc.

    I am out of “society”…don’t dress/act/think like they do. I see how they are from a distance and don’t want my life to be like that. I understand my life/health/what causes my MS and more. Time to think/pray/be aware/learn/research.

    I did not plan on having my health collapse, but it did due to heavy metals/Celiac/infections and more. I was running on empty …could not eat or sleep for 30 years and now I figured out what was the problem.

    I try to think positive, but don’t want to focus on MS since you get more of what you focus on. I just focus on healing more each day and learning more.

    I still have not figured out how to be in relationships since I am alone and isolated and wish I had a partner in life, but know I may not be a good “team person” since I am used to being alone. Many people have been divorced who were sick, but many also shut down and don’t try again. Life is not a dress rehearsal….putting off love which is what life is about is to me is missing out on the greatest commandment to love. Only 11.5% of married people maybe happy, but I would love to have someone to do things with. I am alone 99% of the time. Yes..it is more peaceful/can do things when I am ready/less stress, but love is important. I see others in relationships that are working enough to have companionship and see young people find relationships. Older people should not give up on relationships. I don’t want to go to activities where I just sit, but ones where I participate and feel alive/that I am really living. Being sick is safe, but that is not what life is about. I am not sick by choice, but things keep happening. I was hoping to graduate out of sickness to health. I still have hope and am not trying to be sick. I read the Bible 3X and learned how to pray better and know God is real with prayers answered daily. I have a blessing journal with blessings/prayers answered/good things that happened. I learned as much as a Naturopath in order to help my health. An MS friend who was in a wheel chair copied what I did and healed and is having a normal life. Natural help is awesome/works to rebuild/restore health. People don’t see my MS so they may reject me and not realize all the hell I have gone through, but now I don’t care. They are not my source of self esteem. I got a life due to MS, but it has limitations due to energy, but I am still doing ok. I can dance/walk/swim and more. God is real and can help…never give up!

  • l4u95h
    12 months ago

    Many many things. I was and still am so grateful to have a diagnosis. My husband is with me every step of the way. My Mom is always helps. I regained the ability to walk. After being diagnosed I lost the ability to walk for a year. I’ve gained more friends. One thing I got back last year was being able to wash my hair with 2 hands.

  • LuvMyDog
    12 months ago

    Has anything positive happened since I was diagnosed with MS 36 years ago? The simplest answer to that question is a big fat NO!!! I was in my 30’s, I had a good job, good paycheck, pretty darn good life. The pain made life miserable. The dizziness made life miserable and effected my job and all of my regular activities as did optic neuritis. A few years down the road, the depression hit. Trouble walking, mind boggling fatigue, you name it, it came, it went, it came back again. I stopped going places I enjoyed for so many years. That’s a small snapshot of my life with MS. I’m not happy. It’s an ugly disease and I know it effects everyone differently but sadly, no matter how it effects you….I don’t live your life, just mine.

  • ASAPcindy
    12 months ago

    Like many, I was diagnosed just when I started to get traction; my job was becoming a career, my two kids were in preschool, and we just bought a house. Then my diagnosis and then I felt my life as I thought it would be was over. I can only compare it to when my first boyfriend dumped me and broke my heart. Something I thought was a given wasn’t one at all. MS meant a lot of changes for everyone. My husband had to quit his own business because I wasn’t sure how long I would be able to support the family. I had to hire someone to teach my kids how to ride a bike. I couldn’t even play in the leaves with my kids. But life went on. Leaving my job meant I was home to meet the kids when they got off the bus. I had the energy to help them do their stuff. My house was always messy because if someone had a creative idea l went for it. Their friends were always over because we were always in the middle if a project. We started a tradition: the first day of summer my girls hosted a tiedye party and all the neighborhood kids brought shirts. I think that was the ultimate blessing of my diagnosis: my girls have grown into great people because I wasn’t distracted buy quotas or market share. MS gave me time to be home when it counted. My husband, well, he’s still waiting for a clean house.

  • angilynn77
    12 months ago

    Choosing to recognize all over again that I have more loved ones near & far that are blood, friend, coworker, you name it. RGrateful to have regained my born love & appreciation for them. I’m beginning to see things differently, appreciate & let go more…..without family support & energy is be lost I feel. Much love

  • Judy
    12 months ago

    I believe that our free will is ours before we are born. That would mean I chose this life. I don’t know why I would, but at the end of the day, my life is better since I was diagnosed with MS in 1998. I have left negativity behind, owned my choices, and I have done the best I could with this disease. My life is good. MS is what brought me here. My children are raised and on their own. I can’t ask for anything more. I just say “Thank You”.

  • angilynn77
    12 months ago

    I think I was meant to be here reading up on everyday experiences with M.S. from those living with it daily…..
    Thank you is about all I could say, your comment hit home. If I never had M.S. who knows where I’d be in my life……I feel like its given me focus, resolve & motivation to be my best I can be. My children also grown….(twin sons graduate h.s. youngest of them is going into marine corps basic, and my daughter’s blessed me with 2gorgeously healthy sweet happy baby boys) look to me for the next stage in our growth together as an older family. I agree now that I’d choose this life every time… share in this experience with my aunt, uncle & 2 of my cousins. Maybe I’m meant to be more compassionately grateful than I’ve ever been. Here to learn from, thrive with, & just BE. Refocused on family, what’s IMPORTANT.
    Respectfully,

  • cathymuller
    12 months ago

    My positive thing since a diagnosis of MS was being able to tell people what I new for years, I was not well. Hiding it for years was my mistake but when doctors don’t listen it even makes your family not believe you when you say something is wrong. I was physically hurting myself trying to keep up with the people around me. Now they can’t believe all the things I can’t do anymore, that they didn’t realize I already found different ways to accomplish the task even if its only half right.

  • angilynn77
    12 months ago

    Even as I’m new to this community…..I must say for 10 to almost 15 years I awoke with mind & bodily wracking numb tingly ‘dead’ limbs from elbow to finger tip…..having to roll over on belly to scoot over to side of bed sitting up. Always called my mother in panic….(2 of her 3 siblings have M.S.)asking could it be??? I’ve always grown up around this unscrupulous disease in my family wondering…always wondering. Wondering ended Feb 9, 2016 with my diagnosis & its taken 2years to begin getting past the empty shock, & complete anger. More fairly secure having support/back up. Thinking the skybring the limit is just the beginning again thankfully…what can I do while I can & then some.

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