“Get Over It Already!!!”

“Get Over It Already!!!”

Now, before you think that I’m trying to tell you to ‘get over your MS’ based on the title, let me assure you that I’m not. I have just come in to contact with people over the past few months, that have said this to me… maybe not with the exclamation points, but that’s how it came off to me, no matter the volume it was said in.

I would never tell someone that

How do you tell someone to just ‘get over it’? I’m sorry, but I would NEVER tell someone that… unless it was one of my friends who had a break up and needed to move on ’cause they were stupid to begin with, but you get what I mean. I would never say that to someone with MS, or any other chronic illness. Why? Because I have this thing called… RESPECT. Yeah, I know, it’s not something that EVERY person we come in to contact with has. But, I was raised with it… along with common sense, which also seems to be lacking in some individuals these days as well too.

Has this been said to you?

But back to the main point… has this been said to you before? Did you do anything about it? Or, did you silently slap in the face? Duct tape their mouth shut? Perhaps visualized having a remote control that could easily just ‘mute’ stupid? (So maybe I have a BIG imagination at times.)

So let me just get to the heart of what I’m trying to get to, so that those people out there that they we should just ‘get over it’ or ‘move on’… from having MS… it’s not something we can just forget, for most of us anyway. This is something that affects my life on a daily basis. Can you tell by looking at me that it affects me on a daily basis? It depends on who you are and how well you know me for one, but to the general population, no, you wouldn’t be able to tell that it bothered me daily. That’s because the general public only sees me when I have the energy to be OUT in the general public.

I can’t forget about MS

If I were to just ‘forget about’ or ‘get over it already’, that would be like an out of sight, out of mind ordeal, which is something that I can’t do…. Because I have to make sure I take my daily medications on time, so that I can make it through the day without face planting my desk, having muscle spasms while walking, etc. Get where I’m going with this?

Also, by implying that I just need to ‘get over it’ says a lot about the kind of person YOU are, the person saying these things… it means you are just flat out RUDE and you should have your mouth washed out with soap, in my opinion anyway.

I don’t want pity

Yes I have multiple sclerosis, yes I deal with it every day, no it doesn’t go away, the severity of the symptoms just differ from day to day, depending on multiple factors. I’m not going to just ‘get over it’ because you think I talk about it, or bring it up just for pity or attention. I don’t want pity though, and I don’t want your attention if you’re just a rude person. When I speak about it, it is in reply to someone asking how I’m doing or trying to educate someone about multiple sclerosis, neurological symptoms, etc. I know that’s hard for some of these small-minded people to get their head around, but that’s the truth. And as they say around here, “You can’t fix stupid.”

These people that pass judgment on us, or anyone with a disability, chronic illness, etc. They are trying to cut us down because they don’t like who they are as a person, so they cut down others to try and build themselves up. It’s pathetic, really.

Don’t let others’ judgments affect you

Let me finish this off by saying, don’t let other people’s judgments keep you from doing what you want to do, talking about what you want to talk about or anything else.

They don’t know how much strength it takes to live with this illness, where it’s extremely difficult to even get out of bed sometimes. You are stronger than you know, and we need all the energy and strength we can get to make it through each day and to fight back against MS… and I’ve learned it’s a waste to spend any energy on trying to change peoples close-minded thoughts.

Till’ next time… 😉

xoxo

Ashley Ringstaff

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  • Mascha
    5 months ago

    Great article!!!!! 🙂

  • Ashley Ringstaff moderator author
    4 months ago

    Thank you 🙂 I’m glad to hear that you enjoyed it.

    Best,
    Ashley Ringstaff

  • Nancy W
    3 years ago

    So true, that the general public only sees me when I am well enough to be out in the general public. People haven’t said that to me, but it is implied. But, you got me thinking. When I don’t want to do something, or I feel MSy, sometimes, I am not sure which came first. Do I feel MSy because I don’t want to do something or has MS made me not want to do something?

  • Azjackie
    3 years ago

    I have had someone tell me that. It is cruel and hurtful. I thought about the situation and like you said there is something about themselves they are not happy with. Later I found out their child was fighting a terminal illness, they were angry, it is just I “got in the way”.

  • Lisa
    3 years ago

    Wow! I don’t think I have ever had anyone say that to me since my diagnosis in 1999.Maybe I have really nice people in my life or maybe I’m just oblivious. Or maybe, just maybe, they all know I’d be dangerous if someone said that to me!

  • Matt Allen G
    3 years ago

    I have been told my “friends” that they don’t want to hear about MS anymore, it bums them out. Well, I am sorry, it is a chronic disease and right now relates to about 90% of y life so it’s going to come up. I wish I could “just get over it” but this will always be a hardship for me so the best I can do is just bury it all up deep down inside. I am not going top do that… I shouldn’t HAVE to… So if you are the kind of person who wants me to “just get over it” I will just not be your friend anymore, it’s easier for me. Sucks but I really don’t need that kind of negativity in my life :p

  • mascha
    3 years ago

    Empathy would be nice 🙂

  • mascha
    3 years ago

    So true

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