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I’m Not Perfect

I’m Not Perfect

You know how the saying goes, “No one is perfect.” Well, I’m not claiming to be perfect and I never will be. Why, you ask? Let me just say that for one, I’m human, and we make mistakes, am I right?

However, in regards to MS… I am not even close to perfect and I don’t think I ever will be. For starters, I don’t like being told not to do something, go figure right. So you know those hot topics we hear about in MS… like don’t smoke… limit drinking… eat a healthy diet. Yeah, that’s not gonna work out for me. I’m not saying that those who follow the above are wrong and/or bad… it’s just not for me.

I smoke a vapor… (Yes my neurologist knows)… I drink wine, because c’mon lets face it… going through what we do on a regular basis, and then adding in work and home life, wine just helps me get by… now about that healthy diet… I do think there are healthy foods and recipes out there that are very good and I do eat them, but I’m not going to make myself suffer. Let me be real… I’m a Southern Girl… everything is better fried.

That’s not saying that I eat something fried everyday, but if I’m craving a chicken fried steak or deer steak, I’m gonna eat it. A lot of people have told me that going vegan has helped them so much, and it shows that it really helps with MS… that’s great! However, I can’t live off of vegetables. I just can’t… it’s not in my blood.

So what is the point of this? Basically I’m saying that I’m doing what I can to help my MS stay in remission, but I’m not going to base my whole life around the ‘what ifs’. Like, what if this food will some how cause a relapse… etc. Nope, not gonna do it. We only have one life to live, and I’m gonna enjoy it. Eating all of the yummy goodness I can and chasing it down with my wine.

So for those of you who follow every single thing that the doctor has ever suggested, kudos to you, because there is no way I could follow every suggestion there is. And I’m okay with that… I’ve come to know my body and I’ve gotten my MS under control as of now (fingers crossed it stays that way).

With all these news articles that come out with new research info on MS, saying we shouldn’t eat this, or do this, etc. Why can’t there be more articles about what we CAN do. Does that make sense?

So what I’m really getting at is just be happy. Do what makes you happy! Don’t stress yourself out about things that you have no control over. Live your life the best you can, live your life the way you want to.

I have people tell me that I should be exercising regularly and all this stuff, and I get it… it’s good for you, not arguing. But some says, we just want to be best friends with our couch. And that’s completely fine in my book. My couch and I are the best of friends. Do I still get out and do things, yes. Do I try and eat healthy and stay active, yes. But if I need a day to be a couch potato, then that’s what I’m gonna do. Because while trying to do the best you can to be healthy, listening to your body and resting when it needs to rest, is healthy too.

Now, please don’t read this and shake your head thinking I’m encouraging people to be lazy, because I’m not. I’m just saying that no one is perfect and you don’t have to do things you don’t want to do… as long as you still have motivation to continue to be active and eat healthy, for the most part, I feel that it’s okay to let loose every once in a while, and do what you want to do.

That whole thing about artificial sweeteners being unhealthy… got it! But I cannot survive without Sweet Tea; I don’t think anyone will understand the importance of Sweet Tea in my life. So I do use ‘raw sugar’ and not artificial, just an FYI. If you can tolerate un-sweet tea, more power to you, because I can’t do it. Do you see the struggles of life for a Southern girl at times? I mean we grow up on all this goodness then when we get older they say to limit ourselves or refrain from ingesting the things we love… no thank you.

I would rather have a ‘fix’ for my cravings and be happy, rather than getting upset that I can’t have something I want… and being upset about it. I can’t believe I just wrote a whole article over this, but do you see how passionate I am about this topic?

So, whatever struggle you are dealing with now, or in the future… know that it’s okay to not be perfect. It’s okay to do things that make you happy. Your emotional state really does affect your health; remember that! (I’m saying this right now as I drink sweet tea, by the way.)

That’s all that for now! Sorry I haven’t written in a while, things have been CRAZY around here lately.


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  • Mascha
    3 years ago

    I eat pretty healthy begore my MS and now, but decided to go a bit wild with fried food(little) in Holland when i was there last week. It’s home to fried foods. A month ago i threw away my MS diet books,healing MS with food etc. just thought if this was true all of us would be MS free. My neurologist in Amsterdam put up his hands in the air like” ffffff” when i asked about diet. In other words he didn’t think much of it. So explains my fried intake.
    So i will get a little wild now and again and won’t stick to just healthy stuff.
    Your article came at the right time 😉

  • Dianna lyn
    4 years ago

    ASHLEY, You nailed it! Love your article! My saying is the same as my father, everything in moderation. For instance: today I am having pinto beans and fried pork chops..yummy!If these kind of foods make us feel good, how can it be wrong??..I love to eat healthy, but I am southern and I love comfort foods also!..Thank you for your article I enjoyed it.

  • Mspbfh2
    4 years ago

    I also vape, and after nearly 30 years of smoking it was the only thing that allowed me to get smoking.

    I work hard to eat right, but don’t always succeed.

    Even before my MS diagnosis I wasn’t a fan of exercise, now most types are just not possible. What I have done is get a step counter, and most days make the minimum goal.

    Trying to be happy most days and enjoy everything I do have. And what I do have is a wonderful, supportive husband and great kids, grandkids. Family is the what is most important.

  • deuce2treble3quinn4
    4 years ago

    You are speaking my language! I try very hard to do the right things, eat healthy, and exercise.

    I just started exercising again and it’s been really hard. I’ve never been a huge fan of exercise but now with the MS, it flares up my symptoms and scares me. I guess it’s something I have to work through but I get angry, like “it’s hard enough to find the time and energy and resolve to exercise without MS!!”

    I too, vape. I quit smoking with it 5 years ago. I know that smoking is bad for MS but I’ve read nicotine isn’t, so go figure. Anyway, I’m just glad I quit regular smoking and I love my e-cig! I also love ice cream and it has to be a part of my life!

    I’m glad you wrote this. I’ve been struggling lately with whether I’m doing enough but I can’t just make my life miserable because I’m trying to be perfect all the time. Even if I never had another relapse because of it, I still wouldn’t be happy. We all have to decide what’s important for ourselves. No judgement!

  • zenhead
    4 years ago

    when i was a kid, my dad explained his evening martini as being “good for his psyche.” that line has stayed with me – some things are just good for the psyche. my kids use that line when they want to go out for ice cream – “but, dad, it’s good for my psyche!”

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