Isolation & MS
I know that I have probably touched base on this in the past, as many others most likely have… but I wanted to bring up the issue of Isolation & MS. I feel that this should be categorized as a ‘symptom’ of MS, because it can be very common after being diagnosed with MS.
When I was first diagnosed and learned about the disease, I started to feel isolated… not that I was in reality, but I had some people here and there just distancing themselves from me. So I then started to push people away, because it’s always easier to leave than be left, for me at least.
But my thing is, when I was reading over all the material…. What to expect, what symptoms came with an MS diagnosis, it didn’t prepare me for the isolation I felt, which worsened by depression.
A 12-Step Program for being diagnosed
I almost feel like there is a ’12 step program’ of being diagnosed, in a way. I dealt with steps of denial, anger, depression, acceptance, etc. Except for the fact that we have no control over the whole relapse issue. Well we do in a way, but not COMPLETE control. It should also be known that isolation can come and go… just like MS Symptoms.
One of the big differences in isolation compared to other MS symptoms is that there is no possible treatment for it, at least, not directly. It’s not something that people like to bring up, think about, or even speak to their doctor about… I didn’t speak to my doctor about it at first because I didn’t feel that it was something that was ‘important’ in regards to my illness and managing it. I was wrong.
Easier said than done
Some people would say, well if you’re isolated, talk more… or socialize more… Now let me just say that it’s easier said than done. I may want to talk more and socialize more, but I won’t. Like when I was first diagnosed, I knew that I needed to socialize and really try and bring myself out of the isolation, but I was scared. I didn’t know whom I could socialize with, with the topics that I wanted to discuss.
Isolation is unpredictable
Isolation isn’t something that can be fixed and then never return. It’s just like MS… there is no predicting it. It is present throughout different times/stages of your illness, not just when you’re first diagnosed. For instance, when I’ve relapsed… I’ve gone back to isolation. Yes, I purposefully isolated myself. Some people have asked me why, and it’s because for me, at the time, it was safer. I was safer to isolate myself than to be judged, looked at differently, or just have people talk about me behind my back.
I saw this quote a long time ago, and I wanted to share, because it’s a bit fitting for how I have felt at different stages in life since my diagnosis. It reads
“Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.” ~Socrates
So if you are feeling isolated, just know that you aren’t alone. Do we cause the isolation on our at times, yes, but that’s most likely because we’ve been burned before, and want to prevent it from happening again. Or maybe were making ourselves isolated due to depression, anxiety, stress… there are many reasons on why I have isolated myself in the past, and I’m sure there are other reasons for anyone else who has done it before.
I don’t feel like it’s a bad thing to kind of go on a ‘mental vacation’ for a night, etc. but be careful on how far you isolate yourself and for how long… because you don’t want to push people away that really truly care about you.
Until next time…
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