Enfeebled with the hustle and bustle of the daily vigils of life, frustrated with the contrivances of today’s world, perhaps sometimes overwhelmed with the needs of others and the aspiration to lend a helping hand (or two or three), tiredness from living with personal afflictions such as an illness and its effects, weary from financial woes, enervated from a failed, poor (or even the desire for a) relationship, devitalized by the absence or loss of a loved one, or any matter or circumstance that requires… or that we choose to render… our attention, emotion and time… We can easily become immersed in this day to day ‘stuff’ and, well, lose ourselves in it. We may give so much that there’s nothing left to care for the most important – oneself.
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Constant fret over the state of the world today will likely take away energy to enjoy other aspects of life. And yes, selflessness is indeed a virtue and appreciated by the grateful recipients – take it from me who insurmountably appreciates all who render selfless acts to me, but self care is just as important. Or being completely despondent over health issues leaves no zeal. My personal case, if I were to delve into utter despair over having to live with Multiple Sclerosis and it’s daily challenges, there would be nothing left for my children, for example. It’s a fact that life will happen and along with pleasant times, there will be sadness, anger, fear… A myriad of emotions along with a plethora of ups and downs, highs and lows, but it’s paramount that we not ‘lose’ ourselves. Why? Because in order for us to try to live our best lives, we can’t just completely focus on any one particular facet of our life experiences. Have you heard the saying “You can’t pour from an empty cup”? How about, “When the well’s dry, we know the worth of water.” (Benjamin Franklin) Well, you can’t and touché!
Though we are going to feel the effects of ‘living’ and all that it entails, there has to be balance – and there can be. We just have to identify our very own. I believe that when we self-regulate, we are better able to control the trajectory of our emotional lives. Don’t lose yourself, but instead, “Allow yourself to enjoy each happy moment in your life.” (Steve Maraboli) by keeping a little bit of yourself for yourself!