When Life Hands You Lemons
Our family recently received some shocking news. Some would say it’s wonderful news and some might say it's just plain crazy. While I’m not ready to share this news with the whole world quite yet, as our family is trying to process everything, I will say that this isn’t your everyday news. I would have to say that I have not received news of this magnitude since finding out my MS diagnosis. It’s one of those things where you never in a million years think it will happen to you! I don’t write this article to keep you guessing, but instead to remind myself and others how to manage life with MS through more life-changing news.
Huge news affects our health
You know the saying, “When life hands you lemons”? Sometimes I feel like it doesn’t hand us lemons, but instead, life throws those lemons at us and hits us hard. This time it’s hit me right in between the eyes and I’m not sure if I’m too dizzy to stand back up and keep going or if I need a moment to collect myself. So, I decided I really need to do both. When life hands us huge news, whether good or bad it’s important to take the time to process, but it’s also important to stand up and keep going. I think this is especially true when the news has the potential to affect your health as mine does.
3 important reminders
When life hits me in the face with lemons like this I have to remind myself these things:
Take a deep breath – While some things are life-changing and terrifying, it's important to take a moment to collect ourselves and take a deep breath. Sometimes, like with MS, life throws us things that we can’t change. It doesn’t mean our life is over, it just means we have to learn to adjust accordingly.2. Look for the goodFind the good – My MS diagnosis was a lot worse than our current news, but in my opinion, this one is just as scary. It has brought on a lot of fear and anxiety about what is to come. There is a lot of unknown. I like knowing things, so being thrown situations where the situation is out of my control is difficult for me. But, just like with MS, I want to find all of the positives and focus on those things. I have to find the good because the good is what keeps me focused and keeps me looking forward. Finding the good helps shed light on the situation. If I change the way I look at things, it helps me move forward instead of staying where I am, paralyzed in fear. Sometimes the biggest blessings are tucked inside what we may see at first as a curse.3. You have power over the situationLearn to let it go – Don’t get me wrong, I think it is so important to let yourself have a moment to freak out. Freak out, cry, scream, ask why me, do whatever you have to do to let it all go. If we don’t let it go in the beginning then we allow the situations to take over. When situations have the opportunity to take over, it is then that they are given the potential to suffocate us. We have the power when it comes to what life throws our way, let's not let it break us. Again, just like with MS, you can get up and keep living life to the fullest or you can let it suffocate you until you have nothing left.Finding balanceThese 3 things aren’t fool-proof ways to fix any situation, but I do think these things can help us find balance when the world around us seems to be spinning too quickly. MS or otherwise, I hope these little reminders help you with whatever lemons life is throwing your way. Challenges make life interesting, to say the least, but overcoming them is where we are able to find meaning and see ourselves shine.XOXO,Calie
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