Sometimes Donuts Are the Answer
I recently saw the best analogy about being a donut. This analogy was describing death. It talked about how we are donuts, full and whole and how life comes in like the hole and takes a piece of us away. In this case, death was the donut hole. This example stated how even though you may take a hole out of the donut; the donut is still the same donut it was, but now it is incomplete. Just like death, death takes a hole out of your life that can’t be replaced. No matter how you try to fill that hole, the hole can never be filled completely like it once was. It reminded me of life with MS.
You can take the hole out of the donut, but overall the donut is still the same. It still tastes the same and has the same consistency, but it’s unmistakably different. Now that the hole is there you view the fried piece of dough differently. It not only looks different, but you hold it differently and even go about eating it in a new way. That is how I view my life with MS. MS can take parts of your life away from you. It changes the way you are formed-physically, mentally, emotionally. The parts it takes away from you can be gone like the hole, never to be put back seamlessly like it once was. Whether it’s your physical or mental abilities, or even abstract things like peace of mind, there’s no doubt it takes away pieces of you that can’t be replaced in the same way. It changes your life and the way it was, but the biggest parts of you are still the same. You’re still you, but you’re incredibly different.
A new outlook
Sometimes this change isn’t necessarily bad, but it’s not how you expected things would be… either way though, you learn how to move on. Life with MS can add on flavors to your new donut form with the hole though, you’re no longer plain and simple. Now, you’re glazed or chocolate, maybe even topped with sprinkles. You’re still not complete, but you learn that you’re going to be ok with this new life. You have a new outlook and that’s your flavor. Sometimes it’s plainer like the glaze, and other times it makes life that much sweeter now like the chocolate. The symptoms, the mental changes, the emotional issues are all a part of you now, they’re your sprinkles. The lesions, the doctor’s appointments, the loss of friends and family are all sprinkled in. Sometimes those sprinkles are black, and void of color, but other times those sprinkles are glittery and vivid, reminding you that there is still good to look forward to. You’re definitely different, but you don’t have to live a tasteless life. Those colorful sprinkles come when you’re ready. When you have accepted your fate as a donut with a hole and decided that you’re going to be ok, you’re going to make it, and be delicious regardless.
The community has made me whole again
You, my readers, are some of my most loved and colorful sprinkles. I know that sounds silly and even cheesy, but I’m serious. I felt a little plain before I joined this community and shared my story. I was glazed and things were getting sweeter despite parts of me being taken away, but they weren’t as sweet as they could be. Through this community and this opportunity to write I have grown more than I could have ever imagined. Knowing I have a community of others who understand and support me has topped my life with those colorful sprinkles and made me whole again. I’ll never get my “donut hole” back, life and MS has changed me in ways that cannot be undone, but those changes have proven over time to come out pretty sweet. You’ve made my donut more complete. So, sincerely thank you. Thank you for reading, and thank you for taking the time to comment, reach out, and share your stories. You make my life a little sweeter every day, and I savor that sweetness daily! Remember, we are all donuts together. Let’s choose to see the donut, and forget about the hole. :)
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