What Should I Do?
I think that’s a question we ask ourselves a lot, “What should I do?” And let it be known that there isn’t one correct answer for every single person with MS. We’re each different with our MS and what works for one person, doesn’t necessarily work for the other.
Considering different factors
So, when it comes to… if you and your healthcare team have come to the conclusion that you need to try a different Disease Modifying Therapy (Disease Modifying Drug), this is something that is fully your choice, but there are factors that come into play with this situation.
So, what I have done in the past is made a “pros vs. cons list”. I find it easier for myself, to have things written down and I get a chance to look over each detail on certain aspects of things. This isn’t how I come to one certain conclusion, but it does help, along with being in communication with my neurologist and my loved ones.
Making a list in your head
Now, pros vs. cons list can come in handy on many aspects that have to deal with MS. It’s not necessarily one that you have to have written down either. Say like, there is a certain activity or chore or anything along those lines that you feel you want and/or need to do. I’ve made mental pros vs. cons list when deciding on how to handle those certain situations in the past.
Sometimes I feel like I’m making these mental lists on a lot of decisions I make on a daily basis. Should I go to the grocery store today? Should I clean the house today? Should I go out to a certain event I was invited to?
Considering the 'cons'
As we all know, having MS, with every action we make there COULD be a ‘con’ following it up. So, for instance: I was invited to go out to a bar with friends. I’ve had a long day, but I really want to see my friends. I know for a fact that I will be staying out late. So in this mental ‘list’… the cons are outweighing the pros. It seems like my answer should be to not go out. But, nobody is perfect and I’m stubborn (which I know a lot of y’all are too). So by making the decision to go out with friends, I’m making that decision knowing that the day after, I will “pay” for it.
I think that every decision that you make on what you can and cannot handle is only yours to make, but be sure to take into account the possible repercussions of your actions. Doesn’t it sound like you’re gonna be grounded? Well yeah, think of it as… If you make a decision, knowing there will be consequences, which your MS is going to ‘ground’ you for that action.
What can you handle?
I know it doesn’t sound fair, and it isn’t. Especially for those of us who are in the younger crowd of MS patients and want to do what all of our friends are doing. So I guess what my answer would be to everyone who asks him or herself, “What should I do?” would be, “What can you handle?”
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