I was diagnosed with MS on 9/11/2001. Since I was diagnosed my wife has been a companion along my ms journey. From 2001-2021 my ms symptoms have been somewhat under control. During that 20 year span I was still walking, driving, cooking, and helping out around the house. My wife knows/understands how stress has a negative effect on my ms ( at least that is what she says). In 2017, my wife and I decided to serve as foster parents for children in need. In six months we were foster parents for 6 different children and I told my wife that I couldn’t handle fostering any more. We talked and she asked me to foster one more child and I agreed. Shortly after we began fostering the last child , the child’s biological mother had another child. My wife felt we needed to foster this child as well. I reluctantly agreed and we fostered the two children. In 2019 my wife wanted to adopt the two children. I said no because we already had two biological children and had our hands full. The choice of adoption was up to the family and I was out voted 3-1. In 2020, the biological mother had another child and again my wife believed we needed to care for this child as well. I expressed my concerns about my health/stress and said that this was too much for me to handle. My wife believed/said that it wasn’t too much and that I could do it. In January of 2021 I woke up one morning unable to move the right side of my body. I was in the hospital for two months and when I came home I had a Suprapubic catheter and was in a wheelchair. I had a similar ms attack in 2022. An MRI revealed that I had several new lesions on both my brain and my spine. I have been able to start using a walker to get around but due to the lesions on my spine I must have bowel care now. My wife and I have been married for 22 years and she said she understood the connection between ms and stress. However, we she had to choose between my stress levels and the three little children she chose the children. Prior to the adoption of the children my MS was manageable and I was independent. Since adopting the children I am more dependent on others. I have a great deal of resentment towards my wife because she disregarded my feelings/thoughts along the way and chose the children over me even though I said I couldn’t do it anymore. Anyone have an opinion/idea on how to get family members/spouses to listen to and understand the correlation between MS and stress. I’m angry, not because I have MS, but because my MS worsened because someone who said they understood the dangers of stress and MS but decided to add stress to the situation anyway. I don’t know if I needed to vent or what? Does anyone have a suggestion on how to deal with my anger/feeling of betrayal?