So glad we have this forum.
I’m 81, a widow of 3yrs, and my kids want me to move from my townhome to a home next door to my daughter. They say it’s for my own good. I really love my townhome and my MS is slow progressive type. Balance the biggest issue. I hope I’ll b happy don’t know why I’m texting this. But I did. Thanks for listening to my venting
Thank you for sharing your feelings with us! And it's okay to vent here, we welcome it! It’s clear your kids care about you deeply and want what’s best for you, but it’s also important for you to feel heard and comfortable with any decisions about where you live. It’s okay to take your time to weigh what’s best for you—both in terms of your happiness and health. Maybe having an open conversation with your kids about your feelings and exploring ways to address their concerns without losing what you love could help. Whatever you decide, it’s your journey, and it’s okay to prioritize what brings you peace and joy. Thank you for sharing—I hope it brought you a little relief. 🧡 -Latoya (Team Member) thank you for sharing!
I'm going to take the role of the adult child momentarily...my Mom is a widow of two years now, and her health is not great. She does not have MS, but she does have several other issues including balance and falls. She just turned 70, but she's had health troubles for many years. And I...am a bit alpha, I want to control situations when I can. And my mom lives 2800 miles away, literally on the other coast of the country.
It was very hard for me, knowing that I could help, and I could be a part of her medical advocation, and I have so much medical knowledge, and my Mom not wanting to move. As a child, knowing that I have the ability to help, it really devastated me that she didn't want it... at the beginning. But I realized that...no matter what she is facing she is still the same woman I grew up knowing.
I feel that you should follow your own intuition, and your desire, you have earned it. And I believe that your children want what is best for you, and they can accept your decision, whatever it may be.
I am my mom's power of attorney. I didn't take the role lightly. And my siblings wanted me to use that to force her to move a year ago. I chose to trust her, and I will continue to.
Now, as a person who is dealing with diminishing physical capabilities myself, I support you. And I wish the very best for you. Please, vent to us. You need an outlet, and this community is wonderful. I'm sending you love and respect 💜THank you,I just needed someone to listen. It’s a done deal with move on January 6. Just gotta shoe myself out of this slump, mayb it’s the holiday blues Merry Christmas to all.
