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I See You

I See You

My dearest friend recently wrote a blog post that I just loved. She describes how now that she is grieving the loss of her father, when Father’s Day rolled around she could finally see and understand what it’s like to recall those you love that have passed away. How she once scrolled through Father’s Day Facebook posts knowing in her heart her father was the best, quickly overlooking the ones that were missing or recalling lost loved ones. It hit me, that in a similar fashion, I have done the same in the past overlooking those dealing with disease. It inspired me to write an article along those lines. Although learning you have an MS diagnosis is NOTHING compared to losing a loved one in my eyes, you do lose something at the same time. I used to stroll through life watching other people with disease and/or disability; I would feel compassion and empathy for all they had to go through, knowing in the back of my mind that I would never have to face something so life altering. And, then my life changed. So, now, those who are suffering with disease and illness, I want you to know: I SEE YOU.

You’re not alone

To those who wake up every day not knowing what you’re going to face, I see you.

To those facing aches, pains, or fatigue that you don’t think you’ll survive, I see you.

To those mommas like me wondering how you’re going to make it through the day, because you’re so tired you feel sick, I see you.

To those worrying about that newest symptom, and worrying whether it’s a relapse or not and how it will affect your next MRI, I see you.

To those going to your next doctor’s appointment and feeling the anxiety of wondering whether the doctor will have good or bad news, I see you.

To those who suffer with more than one illness (ex. MS and thyroid problems), I see you.

To those popping pills and taking injections in hopes of a better tomorrow, I see you.

To those suffering with depression and anxiety, I see you.

To those questioning “why me”, I see you.

To those wanting to stay afloat in every day life, but the pressure of this disease is weighing you down, and it seems like too much to bear, I see you.

To those feeling sad and lonely because this day with MS has hit you so hard you don’t think you can handle it, I see you.

To those praying and wishing someone could see the pain you go through behind that smile you force, I see you.

To those constantly wanting to better yourself, but not finding the energy to do so, I see you.

To those mourning the “normal” life you once held, I see you.

I understand

There are so many days I think or deal with all of the things I listed above. I want you to know that you’re not alone in your worries and your doubts. You’re not alone in wishing for just one more day where you didn’t have to feel crummy and like this life isn’t anything like what you once imagined. I do often mourn the loss of the days I once didn’t have to deal with this disease. But, thanks to a wonderful family, friends and the best support system I could ask for, I take each day as they come and hope for the best. Please know if you’re feeling hopeless and wishing life wasn’t this way, someone out there is also feeling the same way. Someone understands. I understand, and I see you.

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    3 years ago

    Thank you! I needed to hear that someone sees me, not my illiness.. MS has made me “hide” because I can’t do things my old friends can.

  • Tracey
    3 years ago

    Thank you.

  • patipip
    3 years ago

    Yes! ThankGod someone sees me. I often feel as though I am invisible. That my voice is unheard. That inside of my head and heart are thoughts and feelings no one else could possibly have. And yet you just voiced everyone of them. THANK YOU FOR THAT.

  • Yoshitail9
    3 years ago

    Hello Calie..great post. I was diagnosed back in 1979 at age 33. That
    38 years ago ! Your article hit home as one of my co-workers who has MS always greets me as I do her with “I can see you”. People may think we are nuts but we understand what it means to each other. We have been doing this for the last few years. After the I can see you greeting we follow up with ” And you look so well !”. Keep up the fight.

  • Terryjo
    3 years ago

    I so get this! My counselor recommended that I find something/ someone to communicate with who could empathize with what MS is doing to me. Even those who love us cannot completely understand the emotional, intellectual, social and spiritual impact that this disease has on those of us afflicted with it. I still “mourn” the life I used to have before MS, and find myself going through that mourning process after each flareup. Thank you so much for your article!

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