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The Test of Taking My Own Advice

You think that, for the most part, you have a pretty good handle when going through tough situations. That though it’s not always easy, with logic, encouragement, and understanding, you’re sure to stand strong and persevere through whatever. Along the way, there were various hardships, some more difficult than others, that I’ve had to endure. There’ve been arduous life decisions to make, loss of family members and friends, consequences derived from poor decision-making, etc. I made it through those circumstances in large part by taking heed of the ‘they say’ advice:

“You’ll be ok…”

“It’ll get better.”

“Be strong.”

“You’ve got this.”

“Just be patient.”

“Giving up or in is not an option.”

Positive motivation

But it seems like life has a way of calling your bluff. I was confronted with a true affliction when I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, a chronic, degenerative, autoimmune disease. This was definitely cause to knock me off my square. My health was taking a huge hit, and with no cure, the progression would be sure to make an extreme impact on my life and my family’s life. I knew then I had to get myself to a ‘good place’ mentally in order to persevere. I began to encourage myself with positive motivation and when I found, though not always easy, that it worked, I began freelance writing in order to inspire others with what I found worked for me to live with this illness on top of managing other life trials and tribulations.

My inspirational quotes

I say and have written:

“…a mind is a terrible thing to waste, so take care of it by filling it with positivity, optimism, hope and the like.”

“Remember, all we have to do is believe in what we think and allow those thoughts to come to fruition.”

“…succumb to the trials we are faced with or seek ways to manage and cope to live a fulfilling life in spite of.”

“…living with this, albeit probably life-changing, is definitely doable and worth living.”

“… Where do I go from here? …You simply go on to tomorrow. And live your life.”

“Rather than to allow fallen pieces to remain, I find it personally advantageous to pick them up, dust them off and keep playing… living.”

The test of taking my own advice

And as I was thinking what an inspiration I can or may be with my belief in positivity and optimism as opposed to negativity and pessimism to waddle through my woes, life played to top it… This time I buckled, and each time I have tried to pull myself up by the bootstraps, I have dropped them, and they’ve fallen right back down. This crisis occurred involving one of my children, my son, my firstborn – and I feel myself buckling. I acknowledge, but suddenly find little comfort in, all of the advice I’ve spewed and writings I’ve produced. I still strongly stand by it all as I recognize it has helped to date. I just know that ‘they’re’ messing with my baby, and I’m struggling to keep it together.

BUT… If nothing else, MS has taught me that I am stronger than I ever thought, more resilient than I ever imagined, and a true warrior, so I’m going to get through this. I suppose this is just what it has taken to experience the test of taking my own advice.

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Comments

  • Rolling Like a Lady
    6 months ago

    Yeah, sometimes I piss myself off with my positive thinking, but mostly it has gotten me through some really awful patches.

  • Bkboo
    6 months ago

    MS threw me back into school and I received my History Degree. I was a very very very…did I saw very physical person. A 5th degree black belt, dancer and aerobics instructor! phew…..I was a beast!! loved it…then MS raised its ugly hand in the late 1980s and I was still young and thought I could beat this monster. I thought it left and did for 20 years! Then in 2013…Boom!!!! had an attack and my cognition was affected and it scared the heck out of me! Well, many hardships and stress I was knocked down, devastated. scared and so so sad. Not saying I still can get those feelings, but I stood back up and roared and carried on. I rest when I need to and Im not as active….well Im not a beast!! but I walk, run (when I feel good) etc…I try and listen to my advice now and relax.

  • asapcynthia
    6 months ago

    I enjoyed your post. I feel like my responses here are never helpful because of my piss poor attitude, but that is not the ‘real’ me. The real me is positive and hopeful, and your way of the glass half full platitudes I do find helpful. Jackson Brown has a song has a line that says ‘get up and do it again. Amen’ I think he was either talking about love or work, but it’s the same. You get up every morning hoping for a good day so you can handle what’s coming. We can take a lot, ms tests your strength, and beneath this pile of dough that used to be a somewhat attractive woman is the heart of a lion and a will of steel. But when there are loved ones involved that we cannot help, the inability to do even the most minor thing makes me as steady as jello. Hope the thing that is plaguing your son is over and done, and if not, hope you have someone to learn on. If the glass is less than half full, somebody with ms tried to get a drink and knocked it over. But we get up and do it again. Amen.

  • Dianne Scott moderator author
    6 months ago

    Thank you, @asapcynthia , for reading and taking the time to express your thoughts!
    I can appreciate each AND everything you shared.. especially that MS tests our strength because it most certainly does, but the great thing about it is that at least we have found the ability to get up and go, get up and do it again. The strength I found through dealing with the perils of MS has gotten me through many challenges and for that, I can only be glad. Relative to my son, he’s on the downside of his trial and we are both doing much better than we were… Thanks for your kind words.
    Be encouraged, fellow Warrior..
    Dianne Scott ♡

  • Meagan Heidelberg moderator
    6 months ago

    Hi AsapCynthia!
    Thank you so much for reading, as well as sharing sharing your thoughts with us. The ability to get up and do it again, we praise you. You are truly a warrior!
    Best – Meagan, MultipleSclerosis.net Team Member

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