"Do You REALLY Need That Cane?"

Last updated: September 2019

So, today at work, as I was leaving at 7 am, (I do the overnight shifts sitting at a Front Desk of a condo, because that's all I can really manage to do nowadays), my boss is coming in, and he actually sort of sneers at me, and says, "Do you REALLY need that cane? I've seen you walking without it." I proceeded to tell him that, "Yes, I can walk some without it, and once in a while I forget, and do, but my neurologist has told me I'm an idiot for thinking I don't need it, and not using it. He's scared I'll end up falling and breaking something." You see, balance has become quite an issue for me.

What I really wanted to say to him was, "Do you REALLY use that brain? Because I heard you talking without it."

Fatigue is my constant enemy

Now, I'm new to MS, diagnosed at age 59, only 9 months ago, though I obviously had been suffering for the last few years without knowing it. I went from being a theater techie, climbing ladders and hanging lights, etc., for the last 40+ years, to now, barely managing to sit at a desk for eight hours, 5 nights a week, and say hello to the 2 or 3 people that might come and go. Fatigue is my constant enemy.

Am I a victim of discrimination because of MS?

But, please... am I a victim of discrimination because of my MS? Should his comment truly disturb me, (as much as it has), or am I being oversensitive? I asked him if he knew anything about MS, and he said no. I tried teaching him some about my fatigue, and how I think it's pretty amazing that I have NEVER missed ONE DAY in THREE YEARS at this job, even with my MS. He wasn't interested at all, and actually told me to stop feeling sorry for myself. This is the first time I've had stuff which I consider so unbelievably, incredibly crass, said to me. And by my boss, no less! Your thoughts?

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