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Guilt & MS

Hi there. I was diagnosed with MS when I was 19. It was rather inactive until about 5 years ago when it suddenly became much worse. I dealt with depression and had to start using a cane to help with my walking.

These days I am really struggling with guilt. I feel like a major burden to my family because I am so limited in life. How do I get past that?

  1. Just focus on yourself. Those who love you will help you make it through. Anyone who stands in your way, kick them to the curb. I'm going through the same thing now and my well being is the most important thing in my life now. Keep your head up.

    1. Thank you for your reply. It really reminds me that I am not alone in this. I hope everything goes extremely well for you!

      1. Hi, ! I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I know that many of our community members struggle with guilt and feeling like a burden to their loved ones. And, I hope my words resonate with you -- YOU are not a burden. Your MS may be a burden, but not YOU. You didn't ask for MS and you didn't do anything to cause it, so you shouldn't have to bear the guilt of the impact MS is having on your body.

        I know that's easier said than done. You absolutely cannot help what MS is doing to your body. Would you blame a cancer patient for not being able to keep up like they used to and relying on friends and family on occasion? Would you blame a child in a wheelchair for not being able to go up a set of stairs and requiring assistance? I know my examples are a bit extreme, but it's about the same. And sometimes flipping our own arguments like that kind of puts things into perspective. We would most likely not treat others or talk to others they way we do to ourselves.

        Also, I wanted to share this piece on the topic of MS and guilt, as I thought you might find it relatable -- You're definitely not the only person here dealing with guilt! But, I hope you are able to work on letting that guilt go.

        Best, Erin, Team Member.

        1. Thank you so much for this. I really really appreciate it!

          1. , you're quite welcome! And I promise I'm not always so dramatic in my comments 😉 . I just hate when our members feel guilty.

            Best, Erin, Team Member.

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