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Spotlight: Relationships

Managing relationships can be tough enough. Adding in MS just adds another dynamic. Do you have any tips on managing MS and relationships? Share here!

  1. It’s OK to share how you’re feeling or what hurts but don’t dwell on it. No one wants to hear the negative all the time. Try to focus on what’s right today or at that moment. It may not always feel like it, but the glass is always half full. Sometimes we just have to switch our focus. Do what you can do today because we all know MS can change things tomorrow. Find the joy… It’s always there but may be harder to see some days. People want to be with happy people... we’re all attracted to happiness and joy. Keep on smiling 😀

    1. Unfortunately, I don't have any relationship tips. But, I do know that MS affects our sex lives, I don't know why they are reluctant to have and enjoy sex with a MS person, even if it is their spouse!

      1. Make sure to get as much knowledge of the disease you can. I personally went on with my everyday like I didn’t have MS. I didn’t do the research I should have when diagnosed 13 years ago. It’s hard on you. And the mood swings that come with it can be very unbearable to loved ones. Personally I sank into deep depression and sunk myself into my job. There are some good days. But with all this I started heavy drinking and living very destructive patterns I couldn’t explain. It took a toll on my family. I’ve had a very rude awakening. And am now 2 weeks sober, and learning about the disease and myself again through therapy. Knowledge is key to this disease I’ve learned. Make sure everyone your associates with and close too understand as much as the can. Just learn and live the best the disease will allow. I’m in pain everyday. But for the first time in a long time I can eventually see me beginning to smile. Good luck and educate yourself.

        1. I was diagnosed 3 years ago and it's been difficult in my marriage. My husband and I have been together for 8 years and I am so moody, depressed, and if it wasn't for him wanting sex, I wouldn't do it. Every time I see my husband look at another woman, it feels like a piece of my heart is being ripped out of my chest. I recently checked our phone records to see who he talks to and he says I nag about where he is and what he's doing. He works offshore so I only see him 1 week out of the month but I also work a full time job. I dont know what's going on in my head. I also forget things so simple it scares me lately. Some days I just feel like he's being cheated out of a better life and that I should just tell him to go so he doesn't have to deal with me or MS.

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