Weekends...

it's so challenging to be completely exhausted and feel like you can't get the rest that you want and need. That's true when you're in perfect health, but then add MS into the picture and it just compounds. It sounds like you love your family unit and your home, you simply need help maintaining the home, perhaps some financial and emotional support too. The two thoughts that come to mind for me, I personally would want to talk with a counselor or therapist - someone who can help me to talk through the situation and my feelings around it and help me best advocate for a more unified feeling within the home. I also find it really helpful when expressing feelings around a topic that I feel emotional and deeply about, to start the conversation when it's not at the point of frustration. To me, it just helps to keep the conversation less about emotions and more about finding a solution/more productive. I'm sure others will chime in as well, but I just wanted to let you know that we're here to listen and support as best we can. We're all in this together.
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Alene, Moderator

I do hope you know you can come here anytime you need to vent, . You obviously have a lot on your plate!

I know you love your husband and don't always mind his good buddy that lives with you, but I would be highly irritated by their behavior if I was in your situation. I do hope that eventually, they step up more consistently and make some lasting changes, for your sake.

But, even if they don't, we're always here for you if you need to vent about the situation.

Gentle Hugs, Erin, Team Member.

thank you both so much for your support and kind words. I definitely had a rough night last night. I read back through my thread, and my first reaction was 'what?!' who even is this negative upset person!

A little back story, I encouraged the hubby and the roomie to leave their jobs in December. They were both in a very toxic work environment with the same employer, and it put a ton of strain on our household for over a year. I had recently received a raise and determined that I could cover us financially through a transition period. And I encouraged them to take the time after leaving this toxic environment to heal emotionally and mentally, and then find a source of income that would be a good fit and positive. So that's on me. And they are trying to bring in money and lighten the load, it's just a slower process than I expected.

And then I had to think back to what set me off last night, what triggered the need to vent instead of speaking directly to them. Because I am a person who addresses things that bother me immediately unless I can't do it respectfully and rationally. And I actually laughed out loud when I figured it out!

I did not really rest over the weekend, had a lot of discomfort and vertigo the whole time combined with some severe spasticity. And I realized last night that it was Sunday night and I was heading into a new work week still completely worn out from the last.

The tipping point? My roomie walked through the kitchen behind me while I was filling the Brita pitcher and I could feel his footsteps in the floor. That was it. I went from 10 to 100 in zero seconds. Then I ruminated on all the things I intended to accomplish this past weekend and my low grade stressors. And I knew that I was not in the right emotional frame to open my mouth because all I would do is say something hurtful. So I came here to vent.

And thank you for that! Update, I came home today to the hubby cooking up four pounds of meat into Salisbury steak balls for about 8 dinners or so and working on paid surveys to send me some money.

So now all I can do is laugh. Such a valid but exaggerated emotional response fueled by my physical symptoms. I'm glad I have this community and didn't open my fiery mouth.

Much love 💜 💜