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When is it time to go?

For the past five years, I have been getting around with a scooter, but able to get myself and my scooter in and out of the car independently, albeit scary sometimes. And I drive with hand controls. Now that my abilities have recently made that even more slow and difficult, I am thinking about finally quitting my job. This is so difficult for me. I have total support from my husband and my employer to either continue working, quit completely, or continue telecommuting for a large portion of the week. That's why it is so hard! My husband can only take me to work 1-2 times a week in addition to taking our two very active children where they need to go. This in addition to managing his own career and everything in our household. My boss is fine with not having me physically there all the time, but I feel I am not doing all that I can do or should be doing either for my employer for for my family right now. Help!

  1. Becky, it sounds like you have reached a tough crossroad. And now you need to listen to your heart - what does it tell you to do ? Giving up a career that you worked for and enjoy, and maybe even need for the pay and benefits, is a hard choice to make. But will you and your family be better off? Can you manage the working from home?

    It also sounds like you are pressuring yourself to perform at a level that might not be realistic. The self-imposed doubts are horrible and perhaps you would benefit from talking to someone about this situation? The NMSS society has great MS Navigators who are available 24/7. That might be useful for you as you try to sort out your decision. Good luck - it's not easy. Laura

    1. Someone with MS told me that she really could not go with her gut, it took talking with her therapist to figure out what would be the benchmarks that would drive her decision. The therapist could help with the objectivity. She has children at home and a husband with a career as well.

      Whether you are contributing to your employer--that depends a lot on what kind of job (some employers are very driven by productivity measures that really don't necessarily affect work quality) but the fact that the employer is ok with whatever you decide sounds like a very good sign that you are considered valuable.

      1. I ended up leaving my career as a nursing assistant when I realized I was so weak I could barely hold myself up. I proactively removed myself from my position before a fall happened because I was too weak to catch my falling patient. My heart didn’t want to leave but my intuition told me to choose resignation BEFORE someone got hurt.

        1. i became a cashier but now I've been forced to quit my job recently and still dealing

        2. I love how many amazing, caring, and knowledgeable minds we have in this community. you and Ms survivor sound like incredible selfless people and I am so grateful to have you in this community with us. 🧡 Kayleigh, MultipleSclerosis.net team

      2. Thank you so much for your kind words 😃

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