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Trying to Be Supportive

My wife and I have been together since we were 18. She was diagnosed with MS three years ago and it has been trying at times. I have remained strong and will be by her side. Those vows we committed to when we married circle back in my mind every day.

Just recently the connection between us has deteriorated. We are now on the verge of separating because she feels to be too much of a burden. I have been through this much and I told her I am not going anywhere. My wife is deciding otherwise. Not sure what to do. Thanks to all the other stories out here as well to help relate.

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Comments

  • katrina
    7 months ago

    Wow. That’s rough. I am in a I’m a long term relationship. I have given my boyfriend several opportunities to leave if he wants because I know it’s not easy. alot has changed and it will never be the same. He chooses to stay and I accept that…now. We know the road ahead will only get bumpier for many of us and not wanting to be a burden on others. She has to figure it out for herself. But stay supportive. And be honest. Hope it works out for the best.

  • Erin Rush moderator
    10 months ago

    I am so sorry your marriage is being stressed by MS, cataldo1982. As you may well know, chronic conditions can be very hard on relationships. If your wife is open to the idea, you may consider visiting a counselor or therapist to talk through what’s going on. Here is a piece written from the perspective of someone living with MS that you may find helpful — https://multiplesclerosis.net/living-with-ms/me-myself/. If you haven’t already, you may want to read this piece by one of our contributors, Devin Garlit — https://multiplesclerosis.net/living-with-ms/ruin-my-marriage/. He writes very honestly about MS and relationships. I hope your wife is willing to work things out. Marriage is not easy, as I am sure you know. And adding additional stressors like MS makes it even more challenging. But, if you have checked out our site, you will know that many of our members and contributors are, in fact, still married. I hope that offers you some hope. Best, Erin, MultipleSclerosis.net Team Member.

  • maryelaperezpinkston
    10 months ago

    Is she on medication?

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