First I want to say I’m aware this isn’t a dating advice platform and that everyone’s experience with MS is unique. I also read quite a bit of posts here to gain perspectives on caregivers and a person with MS. He’s on his 8th year and has the remission type right now, otherwise no other health concerns.
My story is 4 months ago I met a guy online, and on our third date he told me he has MS. I am a 31 year old, been working as a nurse for 8 years and spent my first 3 years working extensively with people with physical disabilities of all sorts. So I knew some stuff about MS and I realistically how it can impact someone’s life in every way possible. At the time I decided to go with the flow because I adore him and felt love should be as simple as that.
Recently, he said he can only be loyal and committed, and can’t promise me anything else. He named a few of his life circumstances and MS was one of them. He said his illness is so much to put on someone and that he can’t give me the type of happiness I want. He knows I want a family and naturally wants stability/security. He feels his life is unpredictable and does not know what happens tomorrow, and that there is a chance he might get advanced MS. He kept saying he likes me a lot but he can’t give me happiness and I deserve to be happy. He told me to think about it hard. We are both adults and and I know he’s not playing games. We gave each other a bit of space and then now suddenly he became super firm and just shut me off.
Should I just accept his gift of breakup? And just make it easier for us both? he told me love isn’t enough sometimes.... 🙁
I like him a lot but I really don’t know if I’m emotionally strong enough to see him go through MS. I kept reading about MS and it made me cry a lot. I wanna do this with him but I’m not sure if I can. Is it selfish to tell him I am willing to be there when I’m not 100 percent certain myself?