Intimacy
MS and intimacy. It seems unrealistic. My wife was diagnosed in 2012. We tried to stay optimistic. Yet due to my wifes symptoms of the MS hug and pain symptoms it has been a no go on intimacy. Yes she has attempted to perform her wifley duty and attemp to satisfy her man, but to no avail. How could I allow this poor soul with a horrible disease and chronic pain try to please me. I am after all looking to anyone on this platform who can honestly tell me how they have managed a good marital relationship and have No intimacy.
I had the partner of my dreams before her diagnosis. Our relationship has turned in to farther daughter. It is so sad. I will never forget my promise or vow. But how do you continue as partners in such a hostile environment. This meaning seeing the person I love completely in pain and agony 24-7. I will not give in I will not give up. But after all I am only a Human being.
I feel you. I’m from the diagnosis side, and i so much missing intimacy.
I wish i would have something new to tell, i just wanted to send you guys the power to go through that and keep the love your have to each other.
Hi
. It can help people tremendously just to know they are not alone. Sending lots of gentle hugs your way. - Lori (Team Member) Thank you. I wish only the best for you and yours. The good thing is we are best friends.
, my heart goes out to both you and your wife. Intimacy in a marriage definitely matters! I thought you might find this piece from one of our contributors interesting -- https://multiplesclerosis.net/living-with-ms/sex-disability. And here's another one that's pretty interesting -- https://multiplesclerosis.net/stories/lets-talk-about-sex.
It's okay that you have needs and that you acknowledge those needs. I know both you and your wife are in a position you probably never thought you would find yourselves in. One of our contributors, Kim Dolce, writes very openly about sex and self pleasuring and you might find her writing helpful. Here's one piece (with some helpful community member input at the end of the article) -- https://multiplesclerosis.net/living-with-ms/enjoy-sex. There may be other ways to create sexual intimacy without the actual act of regular old sex, if that makes sense. And perhaps you and your wife have already tried those options.
Hang in there and please don't be afraid to keep doing what you can to take care of yourself, mentally and physically. MS takes a toll on EVERYONE in a family and you need to do what you can to help yourself stay healthy.
Gentle Hugs, Erin, MultipleSclerosis.net Team Member.
