, I was diagnosed with MS years before I went through menopause so I was spared the sexist garbage associated with menopause that you are experiencing (so sorry you have to face that). Although I did experience sexist garbage when MS first appeared, which delayed testing and a diagnosis--but that's another story.
For me, menopause manifested as only hot flashes/night sweats. Prior to that, I had a problem with heat intolerance and night sweats that were clearly MS-related. But these hot flashes were different somehow. It sent me to my OBGYN to test my FSH and sure enough, I was in menopause. Funny that I hadn't had a period for 4 months and didn't notice that!
You didn't describe your symptoms, but if you are experiencing mobility problems, numbness and tingling, balance problems, double vision and other visual worsening, and bladder/bowel issues among other things, those are neurological symptoms and should justify a referral to a neuro.
If you haven't already, describe in detail to the next doc what symptoms you experience and how much it affects your quality of life.
Diagnostic tests for MS start with blood tests that rule other medical conditions that share the same symptoms as MS. Lyme is one, as Lori mentioned, and there are a bunch of others. There is no blood test for MS. The neuro orders MRIs, a lumbar puncture,evoked potentials, and performs a physical exam that checks your balance, coordination, vision, strength, reflexes, and sensation.
I hope you'll get some answers and relief very soon! Best, Kim, moderator