About 2 years ago my husband (37) was diagnosed with MS. It was only a couple months after we got married. After 4 months he spiraled down and (TLDR) kicked me out of the house.
We’ve been going to couple’s counseling since his diagnosis. At his worst, he had a complete personality change, wanting divorce, and being very aggressive. This changed once he got put on some different anti-depressants.
He’s been unable to work because of his MS and feels useless. He has been able to work on some of his art, but that’s not a steady form of income. He’s in the middle of processing disability insurance.
Right now his parents are helping him with income, he’s still on my health insurance, and we still go to counseling together. He now says he doesn’t want to stay married because he’s broken.
Why I’m posting : He’s been diagnosed with depression and expresses the classic signs. His family and I don’t know what to do anymore- his depression really gets in the way of making progress with him dealing with his MS, and our relationship. We still love each other very much. If he didn’t still love me I wouldn’t still be in this.
Anyone have any advice? I realize this is a bit of an extreme situation. The reason I haven’t run away is that our love is still there- we’ve both acknowledged it. I’m vitally important to him for a number of things. His family and I don’t have experience dealing with a loved one with depression, and could really use some advice on how to navigate someone who won’t ask for help, feels useless, and will need care. What we’re doing now isn’t sustainable.