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Problems with family?

I feel constant pressure to push hard and do more then my body or mind will allow, I feel constant disappointment in how my family sees me and my life. I feel I cannot do what is right for me and my health because of what my family with think and say about me... please any advice as I am suffering and struggling more and more every day and I don’t feel like my family would find it acceptable for me to do what I feel would benefit me most.

Please do not respond with “you have to do what’s best for you despite what they think.” That’s any played out response... I need real help here, thank you.

  1. I feel for you I to have the same issue and I don’t know what to do.

    1. Hi and . Unfortunately, you are not alone in dealing with this issue. Lack of understanding and lack of empathy from family members is far too common. Many members find it helps to show family members some of these articles. Others bring family members to doctors' appointments in hopes that they will be more receptive to information that comes from a third party. Therapy (for yourself) can also be helpful. Here is an article from one of our advocates with more advice for people who cannot get loved ones to understand: https://multiplesclerosis.net/living-with-ms/what-to-do-when-loved-ones-dont-understand/. I hope this helps and that things improve for both of you soon. Please know we are always here for you whenever you need support or a place to vent. Best of wishes! – Lori, MultipleSclerosis.net, Team Member

      1. Hi , I'm very sorry to hear of your situation. Unfortunately, it's a common one. Getting family to understand is difficult, some find the words of others gets through better than their own, so they share articles from this site in order to better explain the issues they are facing (with some folks going as far as printing them out for them). I've faced similar issues with my own family, and actually no longer to talk to many of them. It's rough sometimes, but I've found others who care about me and have taken the time to understand. I've tried many times to have a relationship with them, but each time it's been detrimental to my health. Maybe not what you want to hear, but if you can't educate them and get them to understand, then there aren't many more options than moving on from them. No matter what happens, know that you aren't alone and that, sadly, this is an all too common issue, and know that you always have people here you can vent to.

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