Wow, that's all KINDS of messed up. You'd think a church (a church!) wouldn't treat any of its parishioners this way, let alone someone who volunteers their time! I simply can't imagine any of the needy folks who come there complaining about a person's disability.
To this simple reader, the rest of this "council" sounds like an HOA or upper mgmt at some snooty company....judgy and petty.
But even a snooty company has an HR Director who would warn them of the slippery slope they're on with this outlook! But getting back to church, this is VERY unchristian of them (sry, I'm just assuming). I'm sorry you're going thru this. As for me, I'm only truly seen by my best friend of 20+ years. My own family has been self-centered and without compassion. Go figure!